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New tricks for foreplay - keep things interesting
 

All right, so you've been in a relationship for a few years, and the sex has become comfortable... too comfortable. In fact, you're wondering where all the passion went!

It's pretty easy to 'fall into a habit' with sex, especially after 5 or 6 years (or more), once you've discovered each others hot buttons and explored the heck out of them. At that point you have the physical act down to a science, and sex should be BETTER as a result, right? But it's not. There's something missing... 

It's just not like the days when sexual exploration was the name of the game, and when things were the most exciting. 

But take heart, you have an advantage - you share a level of comfort that most new couples just don't have, and you also know one another well enough to take things to that next level. Long-time lovers are generally better equipped to handle experimentation.

Like anything else, foreplay needs to remain fresh to stay exciting. Most men and women agree that a variety of sexual techniques is important to getting maximum pleasure out of sexual encounters. 

To put more fuel to the fire, you'll need to alter your old patterns a little. This doesn't require night school, even picking up a book on sexual techniques would do well for giving you some new ideas. If not that, look up sexual positions on the Internet. Nearly anything can provide you with a change, although there is no limit to how far you can take it.

But truthfully, you probably don't need anything fancy. Even choosing a new location can do it many times. So don't feel you have to get crazy and elaborate. Here's some starters, plus a few 'fancier extras' for you to give thought to and perhaps try.

The basics reviewed

 
Seductive talk

Conversation and 'flirty talk' is especially effective for getting most women in the mood. This doesn't mean 'dirty talk', which is reserved for the main course. Women find a sense of connection is important to becoming aroused. Connect to her by talking about what you may have enjoyed in the past (fun times), sexual fantasies you have yet to explore, or 'what if' scenarios if you've already done a lot. Listening is good, as it's all a way of connecting to your partner, increasing intimacy before you get totally physically intimate.

Massage

A good rub-down can work wonders not only for your level of sexual arousal, but it can really open partners up to one another. Sensual oils can add a new sensation, even smell to the experience. Stay away from the genitals initially, instead using the massage as a tease to suggest what's coming soon, but not just yet. Anticipation builds sexual tension, which generally leads to better sex. 

Also, relaxation and comfort with being naked around one another has helped more than a few well established couples rekindle that initial spark - don't knock it 'till you've tried it!

Kissing

Men, take note - women love to be kissed, and very often complain that men don't do it enough (or well enough). This doesn't mean attempting to cram your tongue down her throat. Try using your hands better - fingers across the cheek, over her ear, or through the hair, or rubbing her butt or lower back gently. Kiss her more often, outside the bedroom, so she doesn't get the impression that the only time you kiss here is when you want sex. Spend some time kissing; the results will often surprise you.

Teasing

This is the "Lost Art of Not Touching Her Genitals". A good tease can mean the difference between getting her aroused enough to accept sex, and making her pant and quiver with desire for you. Don't kid yourself, what you put in you'll get out in the game of foreplay.

Role playing

Role playing is yet another way for couples to re-ignite that spark of 'newness' in the relationship, and yes, it is a kind of foreplay! The interesting part about role playing is that you can start it in the outside world, at a bar, restaurant, or other social venue. One person is the pursuer, and the other, the pursued. 

Pretend to pick up your partner at the bar, or meet them in a park, or any other event you can think of. Some folks get really into it, using different names, and even clothing. Other possibilities include co-workers meeting over the water dispenser, a boss and new employee, or a medical scenario. Carry the scenario through to the bedroom, and then continue even through the sex. You may surprise yourself!

The real goods

New locations - as mentioned above, simply changing location can turn up the heat. If you usually have sex in the bedroom, try the bathroom, or the kitchen, or the living room, or even in the backyard. This will often lead you to experiment with new body positions as well...

Master & servant - Like the old Depeche Mode song says, "domination's the name of the game..." If you haven't already tried this type of role playing (and have an interest) you may find dominance games surprisingly exciting - people often discover new realms of sexual excitement this way. A reversal of roles can be a little scary for the newcomer, and this sort of sex play requires a great deal of trust, so right there you have opportunity for completely new sexual experiences. Take it slow to start with, and you may find you like it.

A little kink - If you've not looked into them yet, try using sex toys. Afraid to get them from a store? Look online at Sex Toy Sex Warehouse (www.sextoysex.com) Look around your home for those items that might work. The kitchen is always a good place to start. Even using food to stimulate your partner can be a new erotic thrill. Remember to warm anything you use in warm water for a few minutes first...

Speed demon - Take a break from your usually hectic schedule and take your time with it. Studies have shown that many couples have sex for a little as 15 minutes! Are you guilty of the 'eternal quickie'? Slow it down, extend foreplay to build up the tension (and increase the power of the release). Concentrate on how you feel, and what you are communicating to your partner. Ask them what they want you to do more of, or less. This kind of exchange can even heal relationship issues if both partners get behind the intimacy of it.

Use new stimulants - Do you or your partner usually initiate sex only after a few drinks? It's another common way for people to relate to one another after a while, where they rely on the alcohol to get them charged up. Try using an herbal genital stimulant like Vigorelle™ (www.vigorelle.com) for women, or VigRX Oil™ (www.vigrxoil.com) for men. These can make your skin (and your sexual organs) tingle and pulse with new sensations.

Mess around - Got a pattern? Trash it! Take what you normally do, and even without adding anything new, try a different sequence. If you normally start with kissing her lips then move to her breasts, turn it around. If you normally don't so much caressing, next time start by caressing her from toes to earlobes. By the time you're done, she'll be ready for things to move on.

Put in a little extra effort and you'll get the extra rewards.

If you feel that your energy levels are the problem, or that you or your partner is experiencing a lack of libido, or the drive to even have sex, try getting a little more sleep, and use an herbal libido enhancer - they have no side effects like the pharmaceutical drugs. Provestra™ (www.provestra.com) for women and VigRX™ (www.vigrx.com) for men are top performing herbal combinations that contain ingredients clinically proven to increase libido, and enhance sexual function.

If you feel that lack of energy is the issue, you may need to recharge your system. Getting an extra half hour of sleep per night, plus getting a muscle workout (as in the gym) twice per week can do wonders for your hormonal system. It sounds counter-intuitive, but these workouts can increase your feelings of strength and well being through triggering production of Human Growth Hormone (HGH) in your body.

Your body produces high levels of this hormone when you are young, and decreases production as you age. Regular workouts increase your body's natural production of HGH. Further increase it by adding a supplement like GenF20™ HGH (www.genf20.com), which contains natural precursors that assist your body with production of HGH.

Do it now! Don't passively sit by and just wonder where all your passion went - re-ignite it! Start with a little more effort in the foreplay. Wind up your orgasm springs! Foreplay is critical to charging up sexual arousal, and with a little investment in it, you'll see sexual dividends paid out, both for yourself and for your partner.

Don't run the risk of becoming boring - here we've offered some suggestions to get you started, and few tricks that may be new to you or your partner; use them to surprise and delight!

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