Did you know that there is one thing, a single mistake, which guys make all the time that loses them dating opportunities more than any other? Some guys do this all the time, unknowingly, and wonder why they constantly lose a girl's interest after they talk to her for a
minute.
Dating troubles and even difficulties in getting girls' phone numbers can be attributed to this mistake. Conversation and flirting are the first critical steps to building a woman's interest in you. After the moment of eye contact the next thing is a short conversation or flirt. Are you making this critical first mistake and losing out on potential connections? This single mistake will turn a girl off faster than a speeding
bullet!
It starts with first contact
We're going to outline a situation here. See if it sounds familiar.
You're at a pub or restaurant (or club) with a couple of friends. You notice a group of attractive women seated nearby, much to the delight of your group. A little later someone in your group has made an introduction, and the two groups are chatting back and forth. You are getting looks from one of the more attractive ones. When you eventually start chatting with her it goes great for the first little while, but then after a bit of chit chat, you begin to lose her. A short time later you see her again, but don't get the same signals as when you first saw her. What
happened?
You know it was something you said, but what?
There are several things that men commonly do (totally without realizing it) that turn women off during that first conversation, but here we'll look at probably the single worst offender -
negativity.
Negativity during a conversation, especially about other people, can be the most damaging thing to your game when everything else is going your way. It's not that you mean to, but negative comments tend to creep into a conversation if you're not
careful.
Little judgments about people and their actions tend to put people off, especially when you first meet them. Women are sensitive to being judged, especially for their appearance, so if you make a comment about how someone nearby is dressed, or their choice in music, or anything else of a 'personal choice' nature, she's likely to feel uncomfortable around you, thinking that you are doing the same about her. Don't doubt it, many dating experts agree on
this!
Negativity is insidious! It creeps in under the radar when you least expect it. It might be a comment about someone's comments to you as you entered the restaurant, or a 'funny' remark about something you saw at work today, but the end result is the same - a tiny negative comment. And that one leads to more, and soon enough, the girl is looking to end the conversation and move
on...
Want to know how to stop this nasty little turn-off?
The culprit is all in your head
The funny thing about negativity is that it comes from a source you have some measure of control over - your own head! Your thoughts and feelings are the source of everything you say. So when you're feeling crappy, you're likely to say more negative things (complaints etc.) than when you're in a great mood. Makes sense doesn't
it?
So do you only talk to women when you're in a good mood? Hardly! You can (and do) talk to attractive women all the time, so there's no need to censor or limit yourself. Just become aware of what a negative comment is, and how you tend to make
them.
The best practice is to become aware of what you say while you're flirting. Awareness of what comes out of your mouth will give you the hang of what to say and what not to say, because you'll catch your own mistakes! If you realize you just said something unflattering about someone across the bar, you'll see it in the reaction of the girl you are chatting up. Send positive messages instead next time, or with the next
girl.
Another trick your mind will play on you is to screw up your attempts at being positive. Is it possible to still be negative when you don't want to be? Yep! But don't sweat it. Like learning to walk, most of us have to learn how to flirt. Practice makes
perfect...
What else can I do?
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gain!
