Overview
Engaging in cunnilingus -- that is, oral sex performed on the
woman -- is an emotionally satisfying experience for both
lovers, not to mention a physically exhilarating experience
for her. Master this technique, and you've got a fan for life
if you want one. Men often want to make her cum so hard, that
she immediately expresses her undying love for you -- which
usually translates into an interest in doing anything YOU find
desirable and satisfying. It's an amazing way to create the
ideal situation in a relationship, one in which both of you
are happy and fulfilled. It's important you know the correct
techniques!
Plenty of men genuinely enjoy giving the woman oral pleasure.
Others do it just so they may enjoy the reciprocal favor.
However, regardless of the logical reasons for performing
cunnilingus, many men have difficulty in understanding or
accepting a woman's genitalia. Often our first line of
reasoning when it comes to pleasing the woman is to focus on
our own equipment -- how big, how long, how well it performs.
All of these are important, without a doubt, and products like
VigRX,
VigRX
Oil, MaxiDerm
and the ProExtender
device are all specifically designed to address these concerns.
But this article is about changing your focus to her
anatomy, and reaping the rewards, both physical and emotional,
that result for both partners.
The Female Anatomy
Begin by undressing and teasing your lover as you get
comfortable -- nibbles, kisses, touches all over her neck,
shoulders, behind the ears. Leave the lights on, so you can
see exactly what you are doing. Take your time. Though men
have popularized the phrase "muff diving," there
should be no abrupt "dive" to the woman's genitals.
The expert oral lover moves slowly over the woman's body at a
tantalizing pace, arousing her completely even before making
contact between her legs: use some combination of urgent, deep
kissing, full-body embracing, gentle brushing of the
fingertips and tongue along her nipples and inner thighs,
stroking and kissing her along the waist and hips. As she
becomes aroused, she may squirm, moan, arch her back, rub
against you or breathe more quickly and audibly. Once she's
turned on, she's ready for your mouth to work some magic. If
your partner has trouble relaxing and becoming aroused, or if
you would like to bring her to an even higher degree of
excitement, try using a woman's sexual cream like Vigorelle
which you gently rub right into her genital areas to increase
blood flow and sensitivity for her. Vigorelle is recommended
over any standard lube for oral sex, since it is 100% safe and
edible and actually does some of the task of bringing her off
for you.
A woman's genitals are like fingerprints -- every one of them
is unique. Some clitorises are large, others small. Some women
have large labia (outer lips), while others are tucked inside.
Some are covered in thick foliage, while others are a
well-manicured lawn, or a racing-stripe bikini wax.
Underneath the outer lips are the inner lips, or minor labia.
The inner lips are especially thin and sensitive, unlike the
outer ones (at least most women are not especially turned on
by manipulating their outer labia). At the top they form the
cone-shaped hood that protects the sensitive clitoris, closing
in under the clitoris and then coming back out to continue
down to the bottom of the vaginal entrance. The clitoris is
usually the most important point of oral stimulation, because
in most women, the clitoris is the main pleasure-giving sexual
organ. It is very similar to a man's penis in its sensitivity
and erectile ability; in fact, hermaphrodites are almost
exclusively women with extremely large clitorises. The
clitoris becomes erect when the woman is aroused, and you will
be able to feel this erectile tissue as it becomes hard.
Almost any touching, licking, and sucking of the clitoris
leads to exceptionally good feelings for the woman, however,
every woman is different in terms of how much direct
stimulation she enjoys. Some women like the touching and
licking to be focused around the clit, instead of directly on
its most sensitive nerve endings. Other women like more
intense stimulation right on the clit. Some enjoy very gentle
licking, and others like it harder and more vigorous. The same
is true of men, as you know: some men like rough play with
their testicles, others don't. Some men like very intense
stimulation right atop the sensitive frenulum, others want the
sensation more "spread out" or applied all along the
shaft. Keep those ideas in mind as you begin to give her oral.
Also, know that as a woman becomes more turned on, she may
accept more stimulation -- often, what is unacceptably rough
at first might be just perfect as she gets more aroused and
closer to orgasm.
Many women love the combination of your tongue and lips on her
clit, plus your finger or fingers inside her vagina. Again, a
bit of Vigorelle
is a help here to keep your fingers smooth and stimulating as
you slide them in and out of her.
Pay close attention to her body language and vocal sounds as
you play -- when you're on the right track, you'll know it by
the way she relaxes and opens her legs, moves pleasurably
under your mouth, and may sigh or moan. You'll also be able to
tell when you're not quite right or maybe stimulating her too
hard when she begins to tense up, close her legs, tuck her
pelvis under and away, or twist her body away. If any of these
occur, just back off a bit and go gentle until she relaxes
again, and listen for that "good" spot where she's
clearly enjoying herself. And be aware that as she heats up
and gets closer to climax, there's often increased motion and
activity of the pelvis, a change in her breathing, and a sort
of feeling that she is tightening her muscles while staying
"open" to you -- all of these signs are distinctly
different from the signs of discomfort mentioned earlier.
You'll be able to feel the difference.
Positions
Preferred positions for cunnilingus are numerous - lying,
sitting, standing, kneeling, and any other that seems even
remotely possible. To get a comfortable position, there are
certain guidelines that usually help. She has to be able to
spread her legs comfortably and hold them without straining
her muscles. You should not be lying on top of her, crushing
her, and vice-versa. She also needs to be able to put her
hands on your head in order to pull it against her, and you
MUST be able to make eye contact with her. You need to be in a
position that won't hurt your back and/or neck, and you need
to be able to comfortably place one or more fingers inside of
her.
For example: she can recline comfortably against some pillows
and watch you work. Place some pillow under her buttocks, so
you don't have to crane your neck to get inside of her. This
is probably one of the better positions. Another good one is
for her to slide her hips to the edge of a bed, and then you
can kneel on a blanket, cushion, or pillow on the floor.
Of course, there is also the 69 position. You both get to
enjoy the pleasures of oral sex, but this position can lead to
some problems. If the man is on the bottom, he may not
particularly enjoy where his nose ends up (the anus), and the
woman is in a less than ideal position for fellatio. When the
woman is on the bottom, it is hard for the man to effectively
stimulate the woman with his hands at the same time. Some
things that help: place pillows under the head and pelvis of
whoever is on the bottom. It makes it easier for both partners
to give head.
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